Just kiss me through the phone
Can long distance relationships work, maybe, even relationships in different countries? There have been many films that have looked at the realms of long distance relationships, the strain it can have in terms of trust and fidelity as well as keeping the relationship exciting and keeping in touch with each other's lives. Drew Barrymore's latest film 'Going the Distance', in which she has a long distance relationship with Justin Long demonstrates how hard a relationship can be when in this instance living the other side of the country, and all the different problems that can pose.
Drew's character lives in San Francisco and her man lives in New York, they only see each other for six weeks, when Barrymore's character (Erin) visits, but she has to return to work back in California and they can maybe see each other once every two months or so, and other than that their relationship continues over the phone and via emails.
I won't inform you of what happens in the end, you will have to find that out yourself, but the fundamentals of the film raises some intriguing burning questions that in long relationships can go unspoken of out of fear of the other person and how they would feel if such problems were raised. The trust thing goes without saying as being so far apart and seeing each other so infrequently leads to natural questions being raised about your partner's intentions and where their loyalties lie. You cannot know where your partner is going to be 24 hours a day but that is not so different from if you live with your partner, every relationship must have trust especially if you live so far apart.
Long distance relationships are hard that we know, and another problem is how to keep your intimacy levels up as being apart gives you distance that you don't necessarily want. So technology has allowed such things as 'sexting and phone sex' in order to keep the relationship alive in terms of physically being able to express your feelings. It is quite important also as the film demonstrates to talk almost every day for a little while and try and make time for your partner, as being apart from each other every day leads to a certain amount of separation and drifting apart when it comes to knowing everything about someone's day or what's going on in their life. This does not mean however that you over compensate and call them too much, make sure your partner has enough room to breathe and do what she wants to do, make sure she doesn't feel like she's being watched or monitored all the time.
Ultimately long distance relationships can work but they take a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice from both sides of the relationship so work hard and be patient, whilst remaining laid back and always being there for her. The distance doesn't have to be a relationship killer.
Drew's character lives in San Francisco and her man lives in New York, they only see each other for six weeks, when Barrymore's character (Erin) visits, but she has to return to work back in California and they can maybe see each other once every two months or so, and other than that their relationship continues over the phone and via emails.
I won't inform you of what happens in the end, you will have to find that out yourself, but the fundamentals of the film raises some intriguing burning questions that in long relationships can go unspoken of out of fear of the other person and how they would feel if such problems were raised. The trust thing goes without saying as being so far apart and seeing each other so infrequently leads to natural questions being raised about your partner's intentions and where their loyalties lie. You cannot know where your partner is going to be 24 hours a day but that is not so different from if you live with your partner, every relationship must have trust especially if you live so far apart.
Long distance relationships are hard that we know, and another problem is how to keep your intimacy levels up as being apart gives you distance that you don't necessarily want. So technology has allowed such things as 'sexting and phone sex' in order to keep the relationship alive in terms of physically being able to express your feelings. It is quite important also as the film demonstrates to talk almost every day for a little while and try and make time for your partner, as being apart from each other every day leads to a certain amount of separation and drifting apart when it comes to knowing everything about someone's day or what's going on in their life. This does not mean however that you over compensate and call them too much, make sure your partner has enough room to breathe and do what she wants to do, make sure she doesn't feel like she's being watched or monitored all the time.
Ultimately long distance relationships can work but they take a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice from both sides of the relationship so work hard and be patient, whilst remaining laid back and always being there for her. The distance doesn't have to be a relationship killer.
Larry Elrod is a writer for the seductionroadmap.com, a site that teaches men all over the world how to get laid and how to seduce women.
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